Releasing Negative Feelings

Well I have my new blog in place.

So this will be the last week for a blog post on TakeHoldOfTheReins.blogspot.com. I will be leaving it up, I just won't be making any more post there.

This will be the first week of posting to my new blog at www.JaneCozad.com/Blog. I have copied all my old posts to the new blog so they will be there for reference.

I will keep you updated as more changes are put in place.

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This week's article:

In my January 12th newsletter I talked a little bit about letting go of feelings instead of hanging onto to them.

“Burying feelings can be likened to holding a stone in your hand and clenching it tight. You don't dare let it go. You don't dare let those emotions out. That would be a sign of weakness.

'Letting it go' is like turning your hand over, opening your hand, and letting the stone just fall to the ground.

Next time you need to 'let it go', try it. Think about clenching your fist tight and 'holding it in'. See what that feels like. Now, turn your hand over, open your hand, and 'let it fall away'. It is much more of a relief.

Or try this, think about it as a butterfly that you are holding in the palm of your lightly closed hand. Now open your hand, let it go, and watch the butterfly fly away.”

In the past week I've learned about another technique. Remember a couple of weeks ago I told you I had started a new program “to learn more about letting go of, and releasing, the limiting and negative beliefs and programming I still have.”

Well I've been experimenting with this new technique, and I wanted to share it with you.

With this technique you focus on whatever it is you are feeling. Whether you are feeling fearful, or frustrated, lonely . . . whatever it is you are feeling, just really feel the feeling.

Then you 'welcome' the feeling. You 'allow it' to be there.

I know it sounds crazy. But for me it has worked. It's like 'welcoming' this feeling seems to just let it dissolve or dissipate.

So let's say I find myself feeling frustrated because I have a lot to do, and things aren't going according to plan. (Of course, part of the trick is catching yourself having these feelings, so you can do something with them.) I then ask myself, “What am I feeling?” Then I try and really feel it. I focus on the feeling of frustration and what it really feels like. Then I ask myself, “Can I just welcome this feeling? Can I just allow it to be here?”

Amazingly, I find the feeling just dissolving, is the best way I know to describe it. I notice that the feeling is a lot less.

Than I may go through the process again, asking myself, “What am I feeling now?” “Can I welcome it? Can I just allow it to be here?” Maybe I need to go through the process several times on some feelings.

Please try it and see if it helps you. For me, I think it has actually worked better than 'letting go'. But each person is different, and different techniques work for each individual. At least give it a try and see if it works for you.

Even if it doesn't work for all feelings, or for all people, it is still a great 'tool' to have in learning to release and let go of the limiting and negative feelings, beliefs and programming that we have. At least it has been a great tool for me.

I'll continue to keep you updated on this program I'm working going through, and let you in on new insights. When I've completed going through it I will share the program with you and my overall thoughts on it.

Until next time, have an amazing week,
Jane

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Problems. Sorry, that's Challenges & Opportunities

Well . . . , the plan was that by this week I would have my new blog set up on my own site and would be telling you all about it in this week's newsletter.

It's almost there. I have one little thing I haven't figured out yet, well maybe two.

Plus I've been amazed (that's the positive version) how much 'life' has gotten in the way in the past week. I've had this project I really wanted to get done and all this other 'stuff' just get coming up that needed to be taken care of as well.

It can be frustrating, discouraging . . .

Do you ever feel like that?

Somehow I've found that I've had this belief that if I was doing, and being, what I was supposed to be that everything would just flow smoothly. Everything would just fall into place. If I was the person I was supposed to be I would just be positive all the time. Negative, discouraging thoughts wouldn't enter my mind.

I've discovered I've had a deep down subconscious belief that super successful people, experts and gurus don't have things go wrong, they don't have doubts and they don't have fears. I'm not sure where that came from, but beliefs like that can sure make a person go, 'what's wrong with me?'.

Here recently I've had the opportunity to listen to some interviews of some really successful people. Interestingly some of the things they were asked were around the areas of 'what do you do when problems (err, challenges) come up?', 'what do you do when doubts and fears come up?'

The first time I heard it I was like "Really? You struggle with some of the same things I do?" It was actually kind of a relief, like some weight was lifted off.

So what are some of the things successful people, experts and gurus do when 'stuff' comes up or gets n the way? Here are some things I've heard them say, in no particular order.

Yes they have fears. They just do it anyway, in spite of their fear.

When they have doubts and negative thoughts, they counteract them with positive thoughts and affirmations.

On a regular basis they are careful of what they listen to, what they read, what they watch on TV, and the people that they are around. They stay away from, as much as possible, the negative, the discouraging and the non-supportive.

I heard that it wasn't an automatic reaction to be positive when challenges arise. Sometime they have to work at it for a minute, or 5 minutes, an hour, a day, a week, or even a month.

One gentleman keeps a list of all his accomplishments, and when things aren't going right he pulls out his list of all his accomplishments and reminds himself, "This is who I really am".

One thing I do is, I have a written vision for my life, my goals, and who I want to be. When I get discouraged, when things aren't going like I want, or when I'm tempted to give up and quit, I go back to that. And I know that this is what I really want and I can't give up.

So here's to getting past the roadblocks, or around, under, over or through, whatever we have to do.

Here's to hoping that next week I can tell you I have it all set up and you can go check it out.

Until next time, have an amazing week!

Jane

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Changes

This week's newsletter is mostly going to be about some changes and new things I am planning that will be coming your way soon. However, I hope you get at least a little inspiration from this week's newsletter as well.

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Last week I told the story of meeting the gentleman who had lived most of his life doing what he loved and therefore never really 'worked' a day in his life.

Yesterday I had the opportunity to talk to a man who is at the very beginning of starting to live his passion. He is just getting started on the process of transitioning from his 'job/career' to something he loves to do and is passionate about.

I love it. I love talking to people who are living their purpose and passion, or are at least on the path towards it. That is one of my passions, that people ought to enjoy their life and live it with purpose and/or passion, to love what they do.

One thing I've had people tell me though goes something like this. "I don't know what my purpose or passion is. I know I want to do something different. I just don't know what it is."

So in answer to that I'm working on putting together a program to help solve that problem, to help people discover what their purpose or passion is, and to uncover what it is they would truly love to do. I will let you know when I get that all put together.

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Another thing I'm passionate about is around the area of limiting and negative beliefs and programming, and how we get rid of that crap and how we can change it. You know, those beliefs and ways of thinking and acting that hold us back from what we truly want and desire. Some might call it self-sabotage. I've written several newsletters/blog posts around that subject.

I personally have just started a program to learn more about letting go of, and releasing, the limiting and negative beliefs and programming I still have.

You've probably heard the cliche that we are like onions. We all have 'layers' of things to deal with. So even though I have grown, changed and improved a lot from where I was several years ago, I'm not there yet and I see more areas I would like to improve in.

I will keep you updated at various times, letting you know what progress I've made and the results I'm seeing in my life.

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I am in the process of restructuring some of my websites and blog.

My blog will be moving to one of my own websites. I plan on creating blog posts more often, with helpful information, as well as writing articles and posting them online. Lots of free helpful content.

I will also occasionally be offering products that have helped me really grow and improve, and I will be putting those online. Don't worry, you won't receive 'buy this' messages from me every day. My goal is to continue to give you valuable content for free, as well as to share products that have helped me. If you are interested in those products, great! If not, no problem. Just keep reading growing and improving.

I will keep you updated and notify you as I get things in place and as things change.

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Lastly for this week I want to say, "Thank you for being one of my readers!" I truly appreciate each of you. And there is not a lot I find more satisfying, than when one of you tells me that something I said or wrote, either spoke to you or helped you in some way. For that is truly my highest passion, to help others be all that God created them to be, to live up to their potential. All of my other passions are just a part of that.

Until next time, have an amazing week! And remember to enjoy your life.

 Jane

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Never Work a Day in Your Life

“Find a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life” - Confucius

That is one of my firm beliefs. I think I'm almost passionate about it. It is something I'm moving my life towards. It's part of creating the life I desire.

This past weekend I got the opportunity to meet a man who has lived that lifestyle his whole life.

My husband and I went to visit some friends, George and Vicki, in northwest Pennsylvania this past weekend. We arrived early evening on Friday. After an eventful Friday night with their one son needing emergency surgery to remove his appendix, an incident with another son, and a short night of sleep for all of us, Saturday dawned a beautiful morning.

Once we knew the son with the emergency surgery was going to be fine and was going to be released from the hospital that day, George, my husband and I headed for Franklin, PA.

Our first stop was Maurer's Trading Post. It is probably the largest store my husband and I have ever been in for the outdoor sportsman, outside of a Cabela's or Bass Pro Shop.

Our next stop was the Franklin Antique Mall and Auction Gallery. This was an amazing place housed in an old armory. They had an incredible number and variety of items. We were really wowed. It is really a place you need to visit if you ever have the opportunity.

What made it even more amazing was the fact that the entire collection was owned by one man. We met him as we were leaving, as he was the person 'working' that day.

My husband asked him if this entire collection was all his, to which he said that it was. We then asked him how he had managed to collect so much stuff.

He told us that he had started at 6 years old, and he was now 76. That he had started at 6 years old selling eggs, and I think bread/milk, to his neighbors. He would buy other things with that money and resell them.

I said, "I be you've never worked a day in your life, have you?"

And he agreed, wholeheartedly. You could tell this man had loved what he did his whole life. Plus he had made a very good living at it.

How amazing is that?!

What about you? Does that sound like you, or something you'd be interested in doing? If you aren't already, it's never too late to start heading in that direction.

But here is another thing I got out of that experience. He started at 6 years old. What can we do for our kids, or our grandkids, to help them start developing their purpose and passion? What can we do to teach them good financial and business skills?

That would be an amazing legacy to leave behind.

Just something for you to think about.

Until next time, have an amazing week!

Jane

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Imagine Living Your Dream

This week I'd like to share some inspirational quotes with you.

Live your dreams. Les Brown

Follow your dreams. Origin Unknown

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. Eleanor Roosevelt

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined. Henry David Thoreau

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sale away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Mark Twain

If you can dream it, you can do it. Walt Disney

What about you? What are your dreams? Are you living them? Are you at least moving in the direction of your dreams?

Your 'dream'. Your 'purpose'. Your 'passion'. To me, they are one and the same. You might also add your 'gift' to that list.

At a recent seminar I attended in Chicago, The Millionaire Mind Intensive, they told us that we all have a gift. And that there are people waiting for us to share our gift. If we don't share our gift, those people will continue to suffer or struggle.

I recently conducted a small workshop on 'Discover Your Purpose and Passion'. We went through lots of various questions and exercises to help the participants uncover what that was for them.

One of the questions was, “What do you daydream about doing?”

For at least one of the participants it brought to light something she had not written down in all the other exercises and questions we had gone through. One of the things she daydreams about is rescuing pit bulls and using them to help returning soldiers.

Then one of the other things we discussed in that workshop was, once you know your gift/purpose/passion/dream, start deciding in favor of it. When you have decisions to make, if at all possible, decide in favor of your dream.

Remember -
If you can dream it, you can do it . Walt Disney

Just something for you to think about.

Until next time, have an amazing week!

Jane

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Wrestling a Pig in the Mud

This past week I read a statement that has made me really stop and think. Actually I've been thinking about it off and on since then. I'd like to share it with you and give you something to think about for the coming week.

"Some people like to be negative. Arguing with them is like wrestling a pig in the mud. You both get dirty, but only the pig enjoys it."

I was reading an article about Joel Osteen and his church in Houston, TX, but that particular statement towards the end of the article just really jumped out at me. (http://www.beliefnet.com/Faiths/Christianity/galleries/Joel-Osteen-and-the-Littlest-Big-Church-in-the-World.aspx?p=1)

Among other things, it made me do some thinking about why we argue.

One of the reasons I believe we argue is 'to be right'.

I was reminded of a statement I heard several times at the recent Millionaire Mind Intensive seminar I attended in Chicago in February. "You can be right, or you can be rich".

I'd like to add to that, 'you can be right, or you can have peace'.

Not that there are not certain things we truly need to stand up for and defend, but how much more peace would we have if we gave up our need to be right, and just let it go, instead of arguing?

And that includes arguing with someone in our own head.

It can be a real waste of energy and it can sure be a loss of peace, at least for us. So one thing to ask yourself is, "How much is it worth to 'be right'?" Sometimes it may be worth it. But I'm guessing most of the time it's not.

Just something to think about.

Until next time, have an amazing week!

Jane

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