Releasing Negative Feelings

Well I have my new blog in place.

So this will be the last week for a blog post on TakeHoldOfTheReins.blogspot.com. I will be leaving it up, I just won't be making any more post there.

This will be the first week of posting to my new blog at www.JaneCozad.com/Blog. I have copied all my old posts to the new blog so they will be there for reference.

I will keep you updated as more changes are put in place.

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This week's article:

In my January 12th newsletter I talked a little bit about letting go of feelings instead of hanging onto to them.

“Burying feelings can be likened to holding a stone in your hand and clenching it tight. You don't dare let it go. You don't dare let those emotions out. That would be a sign of weakness.

'Letting it go' is like turning your hand over, opening your hand, and letting the stone just fall to the ground.

Next time you need to 'let it go', try it. Think about clenching your fist tight and 'holding it in'. See what that feels like. Now, turn your hand over, open your hand, and 'let it fall away'. It is much more of a relief.

Or try this, think about it as a butterfly that you are holding in the palm of your lightly closed hand. Now open your hand, let it go, and watch the butterfly fly away.”

In the past week I've learned about another technique. Remember a couple of weeks ago I told you I had started a new program “to learn more about letting go of, and releasing, the limiting and negative beliefs and programming I still have.”

Well I've been experimenting with this new technique, and I wanted to share it with you.

With this technique you focus on whatever it is you are feeling. Whether you are feeling fearful, or frustrated, lonely . . . whatever it is you are feeling, just really feel the feeling.

Then you 'welcome' the feeling. You 'allow it' to be there.

I know it sounds crazy. But for me it has worked. It's like 'welcoming' this feeling seems to just let it dissolve or dissipate.

So let's say I find myself feeling frustrated because I have a lot to do, and things aren't going according to plan. (Of course, part of the trick is catching yourself having these feelings, so you can do something with them.) I then ask myself, “What am I feeling?” Then I try and really feel it. I focus on the feeling of frustration and what it really feels like. Then I ask myself, “Can I just welcome this feeling? Can I just allow it to be here?”

Amazingly, I find the feeling just dissolving, is the best way I know to describe it. I notice that the feeling is a lot less.

Than I may go through the process again, asking myself, “What am I feeling now?” “Can I welcome it? Can I just allow it to be here?” Maybe I need to go through the process several times on some feelings.

Please try it and see if it helps you. For me, I think it has actually worked better than 'letting go'. But each person is different, and different techniques work for each individual. At least give it a try and see if it works for you.

Even if it doesn't work for all feelings, or for all people, it is still a great 'tool' to have in learning to release and let go of the limiting and negative feelings, beliefs and programming that we have. At least it has been a great tool for me.

I'll continue to keep you updated on this program I'm working going through, and let you in on new insights. When I've completed going through it I will share the program with you and my overall thoughts on it.

Until next time, have an amazing week,
Jane

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Problems. Sorry, that's Challenges & Opportunities

Well . . . , the plan was that by this week I would have my new blog set up on my own site and would be telling you all about it in this week's newsletter.

It's almost there. I have one little thing I haven't figured out yet, well maybe two.

Plus I've been amazed (that's the positive version) how much 'life' has gotten in the way in the past week. I've had this project I really wanted to get done and all this other 'stuff' just get coming up that needed to be taken care of as well.

It can be frustrating, discouraging . . .

Do you ever feel like that?

Somehow I've found that I've had this belief that if I was doing, and being, what I was supposed to be that everything would just flow smoothly. Everything would just fall into place. If I was the person I was supposed to be I would just be positive all the time. Negative, discouraging thoughts wouldn't enter my mind.

I've discovered I've had a deep down subconscious belief that super successful people, experts and gurus don't have things go wrong, they don't have doubts and they don't have fears. I'm not sure where that came from, but beliefs like that can sure make a person go, 'what's wrong with me?'.

Here recently I've had the opportunity to listen to some interviews of some really successful people. Interestingly some of the things they were asked were around the areas of 'what do you do when problems (err, challenges) come up?', 'what do you do when doubts and fears come up?'

The first time I heard it I was like "Really? You struggle with some of the same things I do?" It was actually kind of a relief, like some weight was lifted off.

So what are some of the things successful people, experts and gurus do when 'stuff' comes up or gets n the way? Here are some things I've heard them say, in no particular order.

Yes they have fears. They just do it anyway, in spite of their fear.

When they have doubts and negative thoughts, they counteract them with positive thoughts and affirmations.

On a regular basis they are careful of what they listen to, what they read, what they watch on TV, and the people that they are around. They stay away from, as much as possible, the negative, the discouraging and the non-supportive.

I heard that it wasn't an automatic reaction to be positive when challenges arise. Sometime they have to work at it for a minute, or 5 minutes, an hour, a day, a week, or even a month.

One gentleman keeps a list of all his accomplishments, and when things aren't going right he pulls out his list of all his accomplishments and reminds himself, "This is who I really am".

One thing I do is, I have a written vision for my life, my goals, and who I want to be. When I get discouraged, when things aren't going like I want, or when I'm tempted to give up and quit, I go back to that. And I know that this is what I really want and I can't give up.

So here's to getting past the roadblocks, or around, under, over or through, whatever we have to do.

Here's to hoping that next week I can tell you I have it all set up and you can go check it out.

Until next time, have an amazing week!

Jane

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